sleepless night

since ages that i update this blog......
it was wired that i am awake at tis time ok, after three year apart frm u n you just dissapear in my life n left me alone.. i was left behind n lock myself deep in working life.

i don belive in april fool but yet it happens on me this year i believe it will be a sleepless night for us. coincindent we pass by each other which two pararel line that will never again cross each other in this life crossed.

we chat thru text n phone call...
jus like how we use to be....

to tell the truth not that i am not fulfil with what i have now but somehow i miss him

yet i even cry when he told me the reason of those days.....i thought i had forget abt those memories we used to had n the feelings too...i.'m wrong

*babe why u din tell at tat moment when things screw up n u know I will always back u up n stay at ur side . due to ur unmature force me to move on without u at my side n keep u deep in heart n don let anyone to talk abt it.

nw u appear around me n tell me tat u know everything happening to me. how should i treat all thing that u done.

*confused*

Boyfriend must do (^(oo)^)

Being a good boyfriend is easy. But it still takes a lot of work. You have to respect your girlfriend and yourself in order to make a relationship successful. Follow these steps and you'll be the best boyfriend in the world.

Be Honest

Be honest. In a relationship, honesty is almost always the best policy. It may be difficult, but the truth will allow relationships to breathe. It is tough, but no matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which might mean that the other person also gives you the same respect. Statistically, studies have found that when couples were more honest from the start, they are more likely to work on their relationship and grow. Don't always try to make a response seem like a compliment. Instead, offer an alternative (For example, if they ask you if you like something they are trying on, let them know that it might work, but you think the blue one is your favourite so far because it shows off their great ___.) But if you do that, eventually she's going to wear the original article that you didn't like, and eventually you will both get very tired of that strategy. It's the same with other problems: telling her what you like is fine, but you have to tell her what you don't like as well. Sugar-coating is fine, but deflecting isn't. Expect this kind of honesty back, and if you both realize that expressing such opinions just comes out of caring and honesty, you'll both have a better relationship.

Be open.
Being open will allow you to create a more open relationship toward each other as well as creating a very good understanding in what your mate wants, feels, and needs. It will help to be open because you show that you can be trusted. After all, love is a combination of trust and commitment. Openness, in combination with honesty, should blend in perfect harmony and make your relationship last a long time.

Be Supportive

• Be supportive. Being supportive plays a crucial part in keeping a relationship strong. Make her needs a priority. Make sure you are with her and provide her with what she needs all the time. Be 100 percent supportive. By being supportive, you will usher in a new and improved sense of security.

• Don't brush her off. People often find it exasperating when they get the feeling their partner treats them as an inferior in a relationship. Women are no exception. Remember, she is your girlfriend because she likes being around you. Some girls have been taught that the only way to get attention when their boyfriend is ignoring them is to act more emotional and louder until you finally surrender and pay attention to her, even if in annoyance. If people feel they're being given the cold treatment by people who are supposed to be important to them, they get worried. Especially when it happens without you giving an explanation for why this disturbance has occurred. People aren't mind readers. Your mate is not likely to be able to guess that you're cranky because they wouldn't let you do something that they felt was very trivial, whereas you found it important. If you know that your mood might lead you to overreact, simply say "I'm pretty angry and I don't want to fight like that. Let's talk later." (Don't forget to follow through and actually give her your time later.)

• Compliment them sincerely. Compliments are great, but make sure you mean it. Don't just say, "You look nice." Say "That really makes your eyes flash," "Your hair cut really suits the shape of your face," or "That makes me want to kiss your neck" ...and then kiss their neck! The more specific you are, the more unique and appreciative the compliment.

• Be sympathetic and empathetic. If it means something to her, it means something to you. Some examples: If she suffers the death of a pet, remember that to her it is a big deal. Women are programed to fall in love with their offspring, and most women refer to their pets as their babies and treat them as such. If she cries, do not tell her to stop. Instead, take the time and hold her, comfort her. She will probably fall asleep after she cries herself out. Do not leave (unless you're going no further than the kitchen to fix a snack for her when she wakes up, something simple that doesn't need to be refrigerated, or the bathroom). When she wakes, give her a hug and suggest doing something simple together such as watching TV and cuddling. If she talks about her pet, listen, tell her the pet had a good life because of her, and that it probably appreciated it. If you know the pet's name, use it instead of saying "your cat." She'll be okay in a few days, although she might tear up a little when the pet is mentioned. If she cries for a reason you can't be sure of, first determine if the tears are happy, sad, or frustrated. If happy, then be happy with her. If sad, find out what made her sad, and comfort her. Do not tell her to stop crying, doing so makes her feel like she's being a burden to you or like you don't care. She'll stop crying eventually, just pet her hair (which most women find comforting) and hold her gently but securely as she may go limp once you touch her and really let loose. If she has trouble breathing, get her water. If the tears are of frustration, calm her down, ask specific questions about what happened, and show sympathy. Do not try to fix the problem for her, at least not at first. Once she's calmed down, then you may be able to offer to help fix it.

Be Affectionate

• Show affection. Show her that you love her, maybe a little public display of affection (PDA), but don't over do it, you don't want to make her uncomfortable. Remember to read her signs, if she's not in the mood, don't kiss her!

• Make physical contact. Girls are usually more sensitive than guys, so even a light touch is appreciated. If your girl is a romantic, upon seeing her for the first time in a couple of days, say, "I missed you..." and weave your arms around her hips then give her a loving hug. Don't make it last too long! A hug in public can last anywhere from 5 seconds, to a minute or two. If you have been together with your girlfriend for longer, and have kissed before, feel free to also give a light kiss on her lips/cheek/forehead/neck just to show that you really appreciate her presence. Or just kiss her hand (not in the bowing in front of her way though, just clasp and bring it up to your lips). Make sure to do it in private or a discrete place if you're not sure how your girlfriend feels about public displays of affection.

Be Spontaneous

• Mix things up. Go to a new restaurant, try a new nightclub or go to a new part of town. Even if you both end up hating it, it's an experience you can share and that's what it's all about isn't it? Creating memories together. Surprise them by doing something offbeat - think less maudlin and more personal. This includes anything from racing them to your walking destination, dancing without music, or even bringing them a tub of LEGO and encouraging their immediate use. You two should grow to be comfortable with each other, and do things together without self-consciousness. Ideally, they should never feel stupid around you for wanting or doing a particular thing. Step out of your comfort zone. Sometimes, in order to get things going, you need to be the one to step out of the comfort zone.

• Give Presents. Put thought into a birthday, Valentine's Day, Christmas or anniversary gift (by the way, it's the 21st century. Your phone has a calender and alarm on it so there's no excuse to forget). Give yourself time to think of what she would like. That way you can find it at a reasonable price and it will still say a lot. A necklace for instance can be tacky if it's not thought out, but silver (which isn't really expensive) and a pendant that means something to her (her name, a snowflake if she loves to ski/skate, a musical note if she's musical, etc) can make it really sweet. And always add a little chocolate. Gifts can also be a nice surprise. Listen to them when you are out window shopping, and if there is something they like, and it's within your price range, remember it and surprise them with it when they least expect it, for no reason at all. Or pick something up on your way home from work or school, and tell them you were thinking of them when you saw it. It doesn't have to be big or expensive, a book you know they will like, or a CD of their favourite band are nice gestures. As Sean Connery says, "The way to a woman's heart is through an unexpected gift at an unexpected time."

• When she says no Presents, or don't have to get me anything- she doesn't mean it fully. A flower, chocolate or necklace will always be appreciated. But don't lavish her in expensive gifts or she might feel obliged to do the same.

Communicate

Communicate.When you talk, you want to get a 50-50 balance in the flow of conversation. Neither gender enjoys an overly quiet partner. If you're too quiet, she'll think your uninterested or distant. If you're too talkative, she'll think you're self-obsessed or impolite. Unless of course something very exciting or important has happened for one of you, in which case a bit of gabbiness is expected. If you don't feel much like talking at some point, keep a flow of small questions going. For example, ask them what type of movies they enjoy, or about one of her favourites. If you know it, talk about it a little bit in an honest way, what you thought of it, and make a guess at why they might have liked it. Even if you are wrong, your mate will usually love the fact that you are interested enough to try. Remember, the opposite of talking is not waiting for your turn, it's listening. Make sure you're actually listening, not just waiting for your turn to talk. Don't listen too intensely, staring and not once breaking eye contact is a bit scary, but certainly seem interested.

Take a Step Back

Let your partner be. Just because she is your significant other, it doesn't mean she is yours, implying some kind of ownership. You can't keep this person all to yourself. You might get jealous if they talk to someone else, but if you trust them and are good to them, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If their actions do make you feel uncomfortable, sit down and talk, again using nonviolent communication. Same goes for how they dress and look. They may not always feel like spending an hour plucking, tweezing, clipping this, applying that. Make sure they know they can relax and be themselves with you. Don't make them feel like they always have to look like a celestial being. If they're letting themselves go, so to speak, bring it up in a gentle and helpful way, like "What ever happened to your red lipstick? You have gorgeous lips, and I love it when you highlight them once in a while. It looks amazing."

Take care of yourself. Don't be needy or dependent. Nothing scares someone away faster than someone they constantly need to remind to do laundry, take a shower, or get to work on time. Be hygienic and neat, set goals, and work hard. You can't be a good boyfriend if you're not a good person.

Remember she talks to her friends. If you don't know what she wants for a present, ask them, they probably know most of her dream dates, favorite spots, favorite brands, and what she absolutely hates. However, do not ask her friends what is wrong with her if you two have had a fight, they will almost always choose her side and word will get back to her. Be nice to her friends, if they don't like you, they may give her advice against being with you (especially if you are a complete jerk to them or refuse to let her spend time with them).

A REAL BOYFRIEND

When she stares at your mouth

Kiss her

When she pushes you or hits you like a dummy cause she

thinks shes stronger than you

Grab her and don't let go

When she starts cursing at you trying to act all tough

Kiss her and tell her you love her

When she's quiet

Ask her whats wrong

When she ignores you

Give her your attention

When she pulls away

Pull her back

When you see her at her worst

Tell her she's beautiful

When you see her start crying

Just hold her and don't say a word

When you see her walking

Sneak up and hug her waist from behind

When she's scared

Protect her

When she steals your favorite hoodie

Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night

When she teases you

Tease her back and make her laugh

When she doesn't answer for a long time

reassure her that everything is okay

When she looks at you with doubt

Back yourself up

When she says that she loves you

she really does more than you can understand

When she grabs at your hands

Hold her's and play with her fingers

When she bumps into you;

bump into her back and make her laugh

When she tells you a secret

keep it safe and untold

When she looks at you in your eyes

dont look away until she does

When she says it's over

she still wants you to be hers

Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything

When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go

When she says she's ok don't believe it, talk with her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you

Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her

Treat her like she's all that matters to you

Stay up all night with her when she's sick

Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid

Give her the world.

Let her wear your clothes

When she's bored and sad, hang out with her

Let her know she's important.

Don't talk about other girls around her

Kiss her in the pouring rain

When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:

"Whose ass am i kicking baby?"

花样男子

i am so addicted to all these song...

Valencia macchiato

Yumm.......enjoying every drop of it.....

45 THINGS A GIRL WANT, BUT WON’T ASK FOR =.

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
…4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
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Are you remembering this?
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.
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KEEP READING ..
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.
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Are you thinking of someone?
16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
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One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.
21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.
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24. Make her feel loved.

25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!
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WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..

26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.
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ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.
31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
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35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.
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REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..
36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.
41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.

You’ll never know when she needs just a little more love .. ♥

这些男人 不避开你就等死吧！

恋爱的时候，每一个女人都得经历不少的男人，在此一定要提醒聪明女人们要尽量避开的30男人。风流自赏，频繁暗示他本人各方面条件极佳，看上你是天上掉热馅饼，呼吁你一定诚惶诚恐好生张嘴接着——我的反应是：余南方人也，不喜面食。

第一种： 风流自赏，频繁暗示他本人各方面条件极佳，看上你是天上掉热馅饼，呼吁你一定诚惶诚恐好生张嘴接着——我的反应是：余南方人也，不喜面食。

第二种： 骑驴找马——永远身边有一“深爱我但我不太动心”的女孩，永远在继续寻找真爱。　　第三种： 贬低历任女友，或面露得意之色宣称：我的初恋情人曾为我自杀过嗳——未遂。

第四种： 沾沾自喜汇报月薪几位数、衬衣多少钱一件、圣诞节到哪里滑雪、刚加入某超级贵族无敌高尔夫俱乐部、下个月准备在中东盘一油田、阿拉斯加建一冰库……吾友潺潺小姐的反应是：闭嘴!看戏(他们当时在小剧场)!散场自己走--你要敢说明年造航母我立马就报警说你耍流氓!

第五种： 雨天开车不顾路旁艰难行走之妇孺，不减速、不绕行、不挥手示意行人先过而昂然溅人一身泥汤。

第六种： 用酒店的窗帘或面巾擦皮鞋，离店时电灯、电视、电脑、水龙头一个都不关--按说这种人表现太差根本就不值一列，但前不久我采访的一位海外归来、卓有名气、照片登在若干女性杂志封面上、一口一个no problem的ceo就这风采。

第七种： 记不清自己父母家的电话号码，或拎起话筒即以大爷或外交官口吻质问：“今晚吃什么?”。

第八种： 见你第二面叫你宝贝。

第九种： 见你第三十分钟即盛赞你的腿为他今生所见的腿中最性感的一双，哦不，两条。吾友雪儿的回答：见得太少了您。并建议他买一桶扎啤于三伏天蹲在红绿灯儿下面马路牙子上好好看一天，省的少见多怪，丢人现眼。

第十种： 闲谈尽是：他办公室的女孩谁腰太粗、谁斗鸡眼、谁品位太差老在小摊买衣服、谁好像和头儿关系不一般、谁无故请假一周不知是否去做人工流产……

第十一种： 偷办公室的稿纸回家。
　　第十二种： 人穷志短马瘦毛长，一喝酒就慨叹人生无趣、怀才不遇、主任给他小鞋穿。

第十三种： 年过三十仍留小辫、穿补丁牛仔扮青年艺术家状。
　　第十四种： 以当代贾宝玉或青年李嘉诚或中年版f4自居。
　　第十五种： 告诉你他喜欢你他的老婆不明白他……是的，要是明白早在您老豆浆里下砒霜了。
　　第十六种： 告诉你他喜欢你但他可能离不了婚所以想和你一生都做最好、最好、最好的好朋友……甭废话，直接拿大嘴巴抽他。
　　第十七种： 钱包里掉出安全套!
　　第十八种： 问：你一个月赚多少钱、怎么这么年轻买得起市中心四室两厅、是分期付款吗……相信我，结婚以后他会跟踪你上下班并给你的客户打匿名电话。
　　第十九种： 跟你借钱。
　 第二十种： 迟到。

第二十一种： 手机常常、不定时、无故关机--民航飞行员除外。
　　第二十二种： 每次接过电话立刻以手势示意你噤声，或马上溜到洗手间并随手关上门。建议：突然大唱革命或黄色歌曲、或把他轻轻反锁在洗手间里然后飘然离去。


　　第二十三种： 浴室中的化妆洗涤用品比你还多--若无缘得进其浴室，则身上香水过浓、头上摩丝湿淋淋如落水狗、领带鲜艳如嘉年华会侍者、夏天穿白衬衣内用乳贴、大陆青年说话像港台人士：一口一个“我们男僧好喜番攀岩爬三哎”。
　　第二十四种： 穿一身假名牌，洋洋自得。
　　第二十五种： 穿一身真名牌，洋洋自得。
　第二十六种： 知道一切内幕、原理、玄机。答话以不字开头。
　　第二十七种： 时常冷笑。
　　第二十八种： 他不会换保险丝、轮胎，但声称他的秘书和司机会换。指责你不会做满汉全席，他妈就会。
　　第二十九种： 已经不是中学生，但要和你aa制。(你愿意为这样的人怀胎十月生孩子、洗衣做饭50年?)
　　第三十种： 深夜约会完毕问你可否一人搭车回家，而他并没有突发阑尾炎、妈妈医院报病危、公司大楼失火。